Alternative Notions of Life, a Different Path (5): Why me or why not me? Your choice

by: Carl "JC" Pantejo


“Prosperity: The eternal flow of all that’s good in life…”

*Below is the fifth installment of a series of articles from the real life experiences of the author. The only deviations from the truth may be the names of people and places. These stories are also incorporated in “My Friend Yu – The Prosperity Mentor: Book II,” Pantejo - Y.N. Vurce Publishing. Release Date: 2008.

You wonder why other people seem to cruise through life while you are struggling.

In this article, we continue looking at “The Scenario” (introduced first in “Alternative Notions of Life, a Different Path [2]” and further examined in “Alternative Notions of Life, a Different Path [3] and [4]”).

- Steps up to now -

In “Alternative Notions of Life, a Different Path (2), (3), and (4)” we discussed The Scenario (below):

You’ve been trying to do something (or have something) for quite sometime, but it’s just not happening. You feel like you’ve done all your homework and “checked all the blocks” required for the task. Whatever it is you want, you feel that it’s really, really important and you want it bad! You begin to envy the other people who already have it. You wonder why, with all the hard work you’ve done, you don’t have it by now too? Sometimes you get angry, depressed, or discouraged because you don’t have it yet. You wonder why other people seem to cruise through life while you are struggling.

Recap of the first six sentences (discussed in the three preceding articles):

We saw negativity attracting negativity and a non-committal attitude (just trying). We talked about the Fear/Manifestation Paradox, due diligence, and envy. We looked at effectiveness, excellence, and efficiency. Lastly, we explored the importance of clarity and certainty.

Actions to Practice:

*Focus on what you desire, not on what you don’t have.
*Don’t complain, instead, be grateful for what you already have (and for what’s on its way).
*Do something everyday that takes you a little closer to your goal.
*Be effective first. Then be excellent - whether you get praise or not. Lastly, be efficient (meaning: do things quickly AND correctly).
*Be absolutely Clear in your intentions.
*Be Certain. If you can’t will yourself to be Certain, fake it until you feel it. Certainty cures doubt and worry.

- Last Sentence of The Scenario -

You wonder why other people seem to cruise through life while you are struggling.

There are two ways you can view this sentence: The Loser’s Way or The Winner’s Way.

- The Loser’s Way -

“Oh, woe is me.”

Almost all losers harbor a victim mentality. (The only exception might be the people who lack the skills to read these words. For example, the mentally challenged, bona fide Psychiatric patients, etc.).

Losers habitually blame everything and everybody else for their personal plights. They revel in their refusal of reality, the reality that they are the First Cause of their own troubles.

They are masters of avoiding anything that might require a little work or a little courage. Personal responsibility is not part of their natures (or even in their vocabularies).

They love to gather with fellow losers (of which, there never is a shortage of) and share in communal commiseration. Consciously or subconsciously, they bask in the attention that their “bad luck or broken wing” gets from onlookers.

Personally, I believe that most losers choose their limited lives because of: 1) Ignorance – maybe they have never been exposed to people and media that espouse a different way of thinking (like this series of articles), 2) Fear – afraid of what might happen if they actually succeed at anything, and 3) Indolence – they are simply to lazy to put forth the time and effort required for success.

You can be a victim or you can be a winner. You can’t be both!

- The Winner’s View -

The winner is the person who, in spite of all odds, keeps on keeping on.

Winners are persistent. Winners know that success is inevitable as long as they don’t give up.

Walt Disney launched Mickey Mouse at the lowest point in his career. Edison had thousands of failed experiments before inventing a long-lasting light bulb. Ford spent years of failure-ridden R&D to come up with the one-block engine.

Oftentimes, the prize does not go to the most skilled, but to the most stubborn!

It’s the boxer who just keeps getting up from a knockdown.

It’s the tennis player who scrambles through a long point just to get the ball over the net one more time.

It’s the marathoner or triathlete who plugs away at the miles and sees all the previous leaders fall from the race.

- There’s no such thing as “Failure” -
Similar to the concept of hot and cold as being just two points on a temperature scale, winners know that failure and success are merely two points on the success continuum.

In other words, as long as one doesn’t quit, there is no such thing as failure, just opportunities to learn (for the next time).

Winners don’t complain. They do.

Never forgetting that “people become the information they seek and the company that they keep”, winners avoid group pity parties. They take full responsibility for everything in their lives – that means everything, the good and the bad.

They celebrate the good and move on. They learn from the bad and move on. They don’t stagnate, worry, or whine. They keep moving!

And the momentum of positive things, people, and places moves them faster and faster toward their goals.

- With Ease -

Ever notice how winning professionals make what they do look so easy?

The answer is simple.

Practice, preparation, and certainty.

I’m sure Tiger Woods couldn’t tell you how many golf balls he hit before winning his first tournament. Michael Jordan probably couldn’t tell you how many hours he spent on the basketball court before turning pro. And Roger Federer couldn’t tell you how many serves, overheads, forehands, and backhands he hit before winning his first Grand Slam event.

Proper preparation leads to professional performance.

Look at successful people in any endeavor. They leave virtually nothing to chance. They do everything possible to ensure success.

While I was in the military, we prepared for any contingency we could think of. We trained, trained, and trained – until everything was second nature.

Many times, when Plan A had to be aborted, Plan B was activated. And since we’d practiced it so many times, we did it almost with no extra effort or conscious thought.

Professionals (winners) prepare and practice until mastery. They keep their magnificent obsessions in the forefront of their minds and do everything imaginable to increase the likelihood of success.

They have that indescribable “it” that drives them on.

It’s the investor who actually reads the quarterly and annual reports of the companies he’s invested in.

It’s the speaker who rehearses his speech until he doesn’t need to look at his notes.

It’s the astronaut who knows all his duties, safety checks, and emergency procedures by heart.

It’s the Parachutist or SCUBA Diver who knows his body and his equipment’s full capabilities and limitations.

- Certainty Revisited -

Did you know that almost all Gold medalists “won their gold medals in their mind” thousands of times before getting their gold medals in reality?
It’s all about Certainty. Winners are Certain. There is never a doubt in their minds about the outcome. They’ve already “seen” it. They’ve already “felt” it. And they’ve already “won” it in their minds. Their whole being becomes saturated with Certainty.
Consequently, all their actions are fluid and deliberate.
And the Universe promptly delivers.
Reality catches up to their inner game and further bolsters the winner’s Certainty. It’s a wonderful cycle!
In other words, everything a winner does supports and builds confidence, mastery, and Certainty.
The end result is a powerful calmness that pushes away all fear and doubt. In the winner’s mind he has done all that’s necessary for success. He has put in his order to the Universe, done his due diligence, and “pre-lived” his success.
Now he can just be thankful, let go and receive.
- Article’s Practice Points -
*Think like a Winner.
*Never complain. Look. Then Do.
*Practice, Prepare, and Be Certain
*Relax, Be Thankful, Let go, and Receive.

This concludes our series of articles about The Scenario.

After all of our analysis, introspection, and discussion, the question you should ask yourself now is not “Why me?” but “Why not me?”

Why not me, indeed!

“Until next time, be brave enough to take a Different Path!”

Your Friend in this Intrepid Journey called Life,

Carl “J.C.” Pantejo

Prosperity, Universe, success, winners, losers, victim mentality, certainty, practice, preparation, mastery, relax, let go.

Note: If you want to read more about Universal Laws, success, unconditional love, exorcizing past personal demons, and the Illusive Secret of Happiness, please read the following articles:

“Alternative Notions of Life, a Different Path: Guardian Angels and Universal Laws.”

“Alternative Notions of Life, a Different Path (2): Trying too hard?”

“Alternative Notions of Life, a Different Path (3): First, Be Effective.”

“Alternative Notions of Life, a Different Path (4): Intend. Be Certain.”

“Experiences from ‘The Flow’ series, articles (1) – (20).” (This is a series of articles about love, romance, Asian/Western relationships, relationship analysis, and more.)

“How Dare She! Out of Desperation I Learned How to Forgive”

“Remember Who You Are!”

“Need to Heal Your Broken Heart? Read on. Overcome Heartbreak and Learn the Illusive Secret of Happiness.”

“Simple (and Priceless) Life Lessons from the Most Influential Prosperity Mentor in My Life - My Father”

And much more!

(By Carl “J.C.” Pantejo and published internet-wide, keyword: [title of article] or “Carl Pantejo”)

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